"I wish I'd taken the donations I collected for 'moving costs' and actually used them to move instead of buying booze addys and Olive Garden".
She was raising money to move a good 6+ months before the choice to live there was taken away from her and she finally left (so over a year ago). Think about how different her life would be right now if she'd just NOT misappropriated that money. All that evidence that S collected of her behavior wouldn't exist so she wouldn't be fighting for custody. She'd have never been arrested. Or failing that, imagine if she'd just moved out when she did and not gifted her ex neighbors one more second of her time. They were no longer her neighbors in August, and all her excuses for this drama like M playing loud music and security cameras pointed near her yard, none of that has existed since fcking JULY. It's not hard to think of a million different ways she could have helped her situation because I truly believe she's incapable of making good choices. If she stopped this dumb shit right now AT LEAST a year from now she'd be able to say she hasn't done anything to J& M in a year. This is what's so frustrating about people offering Tara "support"; every time she makes a video about J&M or the court case (she's also been ordered not to talk about the custody case btw) she is making a new PO violation. And then these people comment some dumb questions or again, "support" and every time she responds that's ANOTHER violation. And the fact that someone commented means that her victims attorney has something to point at and say, "see she has convinced people of untruths about my clients". She can't even claim to be doing no harm if people believe what she says about J&M. The irony of her thinking reddit has done something to her when all any of us have done is see this situation for what it really is. While her followers, some of whom I know mean well, egg her on& participate in her delusions.
*She has a PO against her that is not going anywhere. *She needs to leave the people with the PO alone. In every sense. Forever. *If she doesn't leave them alone her life will be garbage, no hope of anything better. So follow her for 3, 6, 9 months or follow her for the next 3 years, but know that if she is STILL talking about old neighbors she will still be homeless, still be jobless, still not have her children. You will see no improvement in Tara's situation until she leaves J&M alone. I promise you that, having been following this shit for like 2 years myself watching her life steadily decline. If you don't believe me, meet me back at this post in 6 months and let's talk about how she's doing...

Location is in Alabama.
My family just moved into a new house a couple months ago. We were here for barely a month when suddenly all the drains started backing up, i.e. sinks, toilets, shower, you get the idea. Thinking it might've been a simple blockage we had someone come out to clear it but then they found mud in the sewer line, meaning the pipe was broken and would have to be fixed, and as it was in our yard and not under the street the city could do nothing to help us.
The house is barely 10 years old, so there was no way the sewer line would've naturally deteriorated in such a short amount of time. Our suspicions were confirmed when someone came to fix the pipe, and found a communications line intersecting directly with the sewer line. I don't know if naming the specific company is allowed here but for purposes of this post I'll just call them BS&S. The repairman confirmed without a doubt the damage was caused by the BS&S line, took tons of photos of the lines and the sewer pipe that had a massive chunk blown out of it. Unfortunately repairs of this type aren't cheap, and just the fix itself cost about $10k, not including costs to fix our yard since it had to be dug up. We figured BS&S would clearly be liable and they would end up paying for it.
Here's where we ran into an issue. According to BS&S the line was installed in 2011, two years before the house was built in 2013. What likely ended up happening was the initial damage was minimal, like maybe some smaller cracks, but after ten years progressed into much more of a problem so it was only recently discovered last month when the pipe burst. BS&S is denying liability based on the statute of repose in Alabama that according to them says they are only considered responsible for any damages if it's reported within the first 7 years, even though no one was even living here for two years after the line was put in and the damages were only just discovered.
Now we are wondering if this is even worth pursuing with a lawyer and trying to insist they are liable, what steps we could take to get this sorted as painlessly as possible, or if we've hit a dead end because of this statute and there's nothing we can do except foot the repair bill ourselves. Thank you in advance for any advice and assistance.

Hello, I have spent the last few days endlessly trying to figure this out as well as reading up on the 3-4 consistent thread posts about this same issue.
I have windows 11 pro, i9-12900k, 4080 FE, ddr4 3600 mhz 32gb, msi pro z690a ddr4 board.
I stream on obs 1920x1080p nothing crazy settings. I play mainly rainbow six siege 1080p on my 360hz monitor with a secondary monitor with obs open at 144hz. I have upgraded from a i9-9900k 3060ti build to my new one. I had no issues streaming.
The problem I have is that my game works perfectly fine with all e cores on, default bios, no oc nothing except XMP. I maintain easily 400+ frames with my Gpu and cpu usually chilling at 60% with a 4.8ghz cpu usually. However as soon as I launch obs, not even launch a stream, just launching the obs program on my second monitor, I usually keep the fps the same but I get micro stutters when I move left and right with my mouse. Like I’m playing on 144hz all of a sudden and it’s less smooth. So I don’t know what the problem is.
Based on what I read, all my chipsets and bios are up to date. I just factory reset my win11 too. Updated everything. No other optimizations, updated Gpu driver. I have fine fps and don’t drop fps at all when streaming really. I just have these less smooth stutters that start and it’s a pain. I have tried the no ecore option which usually makes me overheat to 90-100celsius as my cpu hits 100% immediately at 5.1ghz so then I get frame drops and stutters cause it’s at 100%.
I have tried all e cores on as usual but with MCE /enhanced turbo for msi boards, enabled and it helps a lot but still isn’t perfect. I am running out of ideas… do I look at my ring clock? My p cores usually sit at 4.9ghz and my e cores sit at 3.9ghz usually. If I disable e cores, I go to 5.1ghz with a very hot cpu and stuck at 100%…. I just can’t believe I’m having these issues with this solid of a build…. How can I stop these less smooth stutters? Someone please help… thank you. My discord is RyGuy#7869 if you want to communicate that way.

Hi everyone!
My Mom was diagnosed with lung cancer a few weeks ago. I am quickly learning about hospitals and doctors who take and don't take her current health insurance. At the moment, she has Part C Emblem Health and through them she has Part A and Part B and prescriptions. She's been seeing doctors at NYU who take her insurance, but now I want to take her to Sloan Memorial for a 2nd opinion. Sloan is not taking a plan that she's on which is Emblem VIP Bold and advised me that I can either switch to the traditional medicare Part A, B, and D or to another medicare advantage health plan in this case managed by Fidelis. What I learned so far is that if she were to switch from Emblem to traditional Medicare, it would cover 80% and New York State Medicaid (she also has it) would cover the rest. She would lose certain benefits she gets from emblem like dental, vision and hearing, but this is something she gets through Medicaid as well. Her annual physical wouldn't be covered by Medicare either and not sure if this something that Medicaid would pick up. (I still have to call them) The most confusing part I am finding about this switch is finding information on prescription drugs (part D) offered by traditional Medicare. Her current drugs are all covered by Emblem but not sure what gets covered under the traditional part D medicare and what are out of pocket expenses and when exactly NYS medicaid kicks in to cover the difference. I called Medicare today and I was told that if I am ready to switch, I should give them a list of meds my mom uses. They will input everything in their system and see what 3rd party prescription drugs come up in her zip and based on her list of meds, they will provide the best match. She was unable to give me more information re cost and availibility because I wasn't ready to switch on the spot. Then I asked, what happens if my mom needs to start taking new drugs and all she said was that I will have to call that 3rd party insurance company and give them an updated list, but again there was nothing mentioned about the cost. It's very confusing for someone who never dealt with Medicare. Another option is to switch my Mom from Emblem Health to Fidelis, which Sloan accepts. My question is what is your experience using traditional Medicare in conjunction with Medicaid vs Medicare Advantage managed my Fidelis in terms of medical cost, coverage, approvals and prescription drugs. What benefits did you lose when switching from managed medicare to the traditional Medicare A, B and D.
Sorry this post is so long and thank you in advance!

Hi all,
30/m/New York
This post is about my struggle with health anxiety and the fear that my heart is failing. Might be a long one but would love to speak to anyone who has/is going through anything similar.
I have had anxiety for years but have been able to deal with it until recently.
4 months ago I had some chest pain which caused a massive panic attack. The only way I can explain the sensation is that it felt like someone was grabbing my heart and squeezing.
A couple of days later I went to my doctor and had all the necessary tests. Blood work, EKG, echo etc. All results came back fine, as expected, except for the fact that I have an oddly low pulse (53 most of the time) and the chest tightness remained.
Over the next few months my panic attacks became less frequent (twice a week) and my chest tightness began to disappear.
I managed this by reminding myself throughout the day of any moment where I was distracted enough to feel normal. An hour or two went by and I would be suddenly be reminded that I’m not dying. I feel great. It must all be in my head.
I had also started weekly therapy during this time but I didn’t find it particularly helpful. My therapist mostly talked for an hour and guided me through breathing exercises. I think what I really wanted was to find the route of the problem.
More recently, my panic attacks have been worse and more frequent. I have been feeling heart palpitations a lot, or more accurately, my heart skipping beats. I began checking my pulse and counting the beats fairly often at this point, causing more anxiety and more panic attacks.
Now I’m obsessed with my low pulse and my blood pressure machine. Almost all results show high blood pressure with a pulse of 51.
I have just had a heart monitor on my chest for 48 hours and won’t get the results back for another 10 days or so.
And this is where I am at… Frequent panic attacks and the constant thought that my high blood pressure and low pulse will either kill me, give me a stroke or make me faint.
Anyone else gone through this?
Thanks!

My bf and I have been saying for 3 years. My last post was talking about how I had been resenting him although I had forgiven him. I did some deep digging with my therapist and realized I lack a lot of self-esteem and validation. I was letting him fill the void my insecurities left. So I realized I needed some time to work on me to learn to not rely on him for my happiness. I was really excited , I found a youtuber that has awesome motivating videos and I was happy to share the new step in my life with my bf.
I brought it up last night and It was a disaster. I suggested a month and he wasn't okay with that. I agreed saying it was a new idea that I hadn't thought through 100% and was willing to hear him out and make adjustments according to his input. He shut down and it turned into a trust issue. He began saying he thought I was going to cheat on him. He sent me tiktoks of men talking about the issue with "breaks" basically calling women whores and that a break is a scapegoat to end a relationship and have sex with someone else.
I have an unsecurity of being labeled a whore it's part of my CPTSD that stems from childhood. Being accused of wanting to cheat broke my heart. It felt like the only person that truly knows me suddenly stabbed my heart. He wouldn't let it go and while arguing he hung up on me. I kept trying to call him back and he never answered. We have been in a shitty cycle of arguing for a couple of months now and i couldnt take it anymore. I sent him a text saying I have had enough we are done. He blocked me from everything only to unblock me to say if he killed himself it was on me. I tried to check on him but no response.
A little context all his exs have cheated on him. Now I get the insecurity but I have been with this man through thick and thin. He is physically disabled and lost his dream job as a result. He hasn't been able to "provide as a man" but I have done the best I can to be there for him. I have rooted him on even when he didn't want to keep going on his own. He is an amazing man but slowly has turned into someone I don't recognize.
He has contacted me today and his mental health is worse than I thought. Turns out he has been drinking everyday to be able to sleep even while we were together. He doesn't do any of his old hobbies and just stays in bed when he's not at work. We have talked about him getting mental help in the past. I have even gotten him the phone number to a free provider that would take him but he never took the first step although he repeatedly told me he would. Now he is saying he is ready to get help but I don't know what I want anymore.
I offered to get back together if he shows me proof he is going to therapy but that isn't enough for him. I feel like I have been given an ultimatum. Take him now or break up but I think my offer is best. If I stick to my option I'm afraid I will lose him. I love him with all my heart and I want to give this another chance but I don't want to go back if it will just undo more of the hard work I've put into building myself. I finally have a roof over my head, going to school, and starting a new job tomorrow. I would like to share that with him and celebrate the accomplishments he will make moving forward.
By no means am I the perfect girlfriend, I try my best and I love him but I just got my life together.

For those who aren’t familiar with my last post- I adopted a bearded dragon in December from a shop I was unaware was a second portal to hell. Murdoc went to another vet visit today and has gotten worse despite his oral medication and iodine -daily, his big appetite and his sassy fast attitude . I ordered him a biopsy and x ray. His x rays came out okay but he lost another toe in his biopsy. I got some new medication and the vet and I are discussing his potential outcomes. Yes, as we all know- yellow fungus is fatal. My heart is breaking and although the vet reassured me this was not any of my doing- lord I feel guilty and my heart is shattered. Praying that these biopsy results yield some decent news but the vet has prepared me in advance. I hope that all of you can keep Murdoc in your thoughts. I will be spoiling him even harder though I didn’t know it would be possibly to cherish him more than I already do..

I spent all night debating on If I should post this or not, but if I am able to help NP’s become better bosses for their employees and nannies leave work environments they are not happy in and who have gone or are currently going through my situation then it would be worth it on my end..
I (24F) have been a Nanny for a current family for 9 months now. (Wfh parents) Everything went well as so I thought until I started noticing some things (I have a separate post regarding of a couple of red flags I noticed my time there) that completely blind sided me and is the reason for why I am looking for a new job. I’ve mentioned in previous posts (on another community) that I will be sitting down and talk to the NP after they come back from their vacation and In which I did. I asked NP if we could do so in the afternoon without kids (F6,F3) being present and they started off with being hostile and proceeded to ask what it was about, if it was bad and if we could talk about it now because DB would be busy later after I told them I would prefer to talk about it later as we can sit down, (I offered to come in 20 min earlier as this wasn’t going to be a 5 minute conversation) to discuss without any rush and again without kids being present and at this time I did not want NK to be late for daycare but I had no choice then to talk about it straight away.
My lack of benefits- how on multiple occasions I’ve been told to not come in whether it was an hour or a full day and how it affects my income and going forward I would like GH. (I started the job with no benefits) I brought up a vacation they plan to take in about a month or so and in which I thought I wasn’t going to be paid for and they responded saying ‘they already told me they would pay for that week gone’ in which I explained I was confused and unsure cause I have brought it up multiple times and was not given a definite answer. Okay great just a misunderstanding. GH crossed off my list.
My duties- I explained to them that during our initial interview we discussed and agreed to me doing only child related and light housekeeping chores which would be vacuuming after kids, cleaning kitchen countertops when kids were done eating and just cleaning up after the kids and myself in general but I found myself doing 10x more and in which they responded if I could give them examples and so I did, I brought up the time I was asked to bring MB sister home, the many of many frames they wanted me to take down because I had extra minutes to spare and they didn’t want to pay me for doing nothing and the time I cleaned the refrigerator. NP proceeded to say to justify that all those things were not reoccurring things they didn’t ask often and if I did not want to do them I could of just said no but then said If I was not able to help them here and there then I would not be a right fit for them and they would be looking for a new Nanny or that I would loose pay. NP proceeded to bring up past nannies and things they would for for them. I explain to them that I don’t mind doing extras but that I would need to be compensated accordingly and we would need to discuss expectations going forward.

Hey sales folks, this is my first post here as a long-time lurker, so wanted to let y'all know how much I appreciate this community!
Im looking for some advice here - starting a new BDR role soon and will be selling to marketing department in mid-market companies. Any training, materials or resources you guys would recommend to look into ahead of my onboarding?

(I explained the full story about these two girls names Tiffany and Briana on my last post. Feel free to read it if you would like to know the full story!)
Let’s say I cut off a friend after coming to the realization that they don’t reciprocate the same energy towards me compared to their other friends. Typically, I’d distance myself but act polite in a way if I have to be around them in person. Long story short, these two ex-coworker friends named Tiffany and Briana would hang out after work pretty often but would never think about including me.
(Tiffany was my FP)
Yes, the world doesn’t revolve around me but it hurt knowing that I was so close with Tiffany because we were emotionally connected and there for each other but whenever I’d initiate plans with Tiffany she ‘d be indecisive or totally disregard my questions about a plan. (This has occurred more than once.)
On my last official day of my job, Briana told me that Tiffany was thinking about the three of us hanging out after work because they wanted to spend time with me before I move on to my new job. I already detached myself from the both of them but when I was FINALLY invited to something for the first time by Tiffany, I got the ick. I felt so disgusted and I’m not sure why?
I was pissed because why finally add effort to include me when i’m moving on? Especially when i’m finally making new friends that add effort and moving on to a new job? Yeah, very thoughtful of them and glad they care about at the fact that I was leaving the job but it’s so strange. They show me effort as soon as I started being distant and decide to not keep them in my life as friends.
They had so much time to include me in plans and the time they do it for the first time is when it’s just too late. Why now? As soon as I was invited to something from them, I still remember feeling disgusted and I obviously declined the invitation. It felt weird.
Why do I feel disgusted when people I’ve cut off finally show me effort?

This is a warm welcome from both myself and u/salticidae44

Hi everyone, I delete the post. While I only posted info you can find online (Google Satellite, City Tax assessment, City zoning map) -one user got to me who made me feel creepy about posting details about a house and how I would feel if it was my home being looked at by thousands of strangers.
I got what I wanted from the post- insight into the area and a review of if I was making any mistakes.
I will post the 311 update to that thread and a new thread, whenever they respond.
Thank you all for the discussion.
Sorry for deleting the post- I know many were interested. Perhaps it was overkill but I rather have an overkill action in lieu of keeping the spotlight on someone's home (or a group of homes).

Greetings,
Today March 20th 2023 would mark the beginning of me documenting my journey on becoming a locomotive engineer for the LIRR. I would like to use this post to guide others as well as offer my advice/information on what's to come if an individual chooses to go on this path.
As foreword, I would like to state that given the completed construction of GRAND CENTRAL MADISON as well as other factors I am not aware of at the time of this posting the current job bidding for the locomotive engineer may be in high demand now; however, this may not be the case going forward.
Here is a timeline of events that occurred so far:
February 20th 2023 - I applied on the MTA CAREERS website for the position of locomotive engineer under the LIRR business unit.
Please refer to this link if you are interested in applying to the MTA:
(1) https://new.mta.info/careers ; after clicking this link follow it up by pressing the "SEE all open MTA positions" link.
-OR-
(2) https://hcm.mymta.info/psc/HCPRD/SELFSERVICE/HXMS/c/HRS_HRAM.HRS_APP_SCHJOB.GBL?FOCUS=Applicant&FolderPath=PORTAL_ROOT_OBJECT.HC_HRS_CE_GBL2&IsFolder=false&IgnoreParamTempl=FolderPath%2cIsFolder ; this is the direct link to the page for all the open MTA positions. Please refer to link 1 if this link is not working.
March 10th 2023 - I received an email invitation to attend a pre-employment open house on March 20th 2023. The email I received contained the meeting location as well as two attachments: (1) Employment Application which one must complete prior to attending the meeting - along with a copy of their driver's license and (2) a job description of what a locomotive engineer does. I RSVPed the same day to a suggested email to RSVP to.
March 20th 2023 - I attended the aforementioned pre-employment open house. As many of you may not know there will be a 2 tests: THE VOCABULARY TEST AND THE COGNITIVE TEST. The vocabulary, for me, was straight forward (brush up on your general vocabulary by reading a book, maybe a thesaurus, or pay little more attention in your high school/college English classes). However, we get to the cognitive test and oh my does it get tricky: It is compromised of a three part test and might I suggest to read the directions and questions/problems very carefully. I cannot stress that part enough. Other than the tests, there is a presentation from the OTJ instructors as well as two breaks (one 15 minute break and one 45 minute break). Following the tests and the 45 minute break, the HR personnel will do an exploratory interview if you pass the tests. I would recommend doing a mock interview at home or somewhere you feel confident, and do pay attention to the presentation speakers for you may pickup some information you can use to answers the interview questions with (also knowing some general things about safety and what the LIRR does would also help). Then they will send you on your very way home to wait for the email in regards to the next exam, which is the SIGNALS AND DEFINTIONS TEST.
I will be sure to post about more of my journey.
Until then!

Hey so I had to get my windshield replaced on my 2018 GT and mine you I have every sensor and a heads up display. I went to a small auto glass shop close to my house as they have stellar reviews. Well I should’ve known better. I didn’t do my research about heads up displays and after market windshields. I got a new windshield and I literally couldn’t see my HUD. Called them and he ordered another one and switched it out, HUD is still super blurry unless I basically put my head on the drivers side window. So I did my reading on this and why it was happening and went back this past weekend and the owner is INSISTENT it’s the right glass for my HUD so I told him to sit in my car and look at it.. it’s blurry and gives me headaches looking at it on my hour commute to work daily. I asked him to order me OEM glass and he is super hesitant to do so. I talked to the tech that actually put it on my car and he said multiple people have had this problem yet the owner doesn’t warn people ahead of time. I told him I am willing to pay the difference but when looking on Mazdas part site it’s 850 for oem glass and that’s what I already paid. It was been almost two weeks and he has not ordered my oem glass. I dont know what to do at this point. I am frustrated as I bought the car with HUD bc I like the feature. What do you guys think I can/should do? I even took my husband with me since this old man thinks women aren’t intelligent or educated about cars when in reality my husband is a heavy diesel mechanic and I help him work on both of our cars TIA and sorry for the long post. I’m just pissed

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[REQ] ($100 CAD) (#Toronto, ON, Canada) (Repay on April 1st, 2023) (Interac E-Transfer) Thanks for the help.

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Hi, I’m in need of a loan. I’ll be paying it back with a paycheck I’m getting at the beginning of next month.
I’m 100% good for it.

So a small background. I “M” (33m) dated “W” (28f) over a year ago for a short time (couple of months). I loved her (part of me still does). We broke up because of a difference in religion. Outside of that we were a perfect match in morals, life goals, and almost everything I can think of. Like I said the cause of our break up allowed us to end on good terms even though neither of us wanted to say good bye to the other. When we broke up it was supposed to be no friends (my choice), just because I was afraid being friends would lead to us getting back together.
That brings us to this past week. She sends me a text and I responded. It lead to us talking on the phone for a few hours. During that time it showed we may be on a new page in the book, but it’s still the same page as the other person. She asks me to be friends as there are few people that she has this much in common with. I agreed to be friends and talk again as we both missed talking to one another. Later in the week we met for dinner and talked more. Towards the end of the night she asks me if we stay as friends for a while and realize that we still have the same feelings would I consider dating her again. I said “sure, I would” because the fact is we still fit so well together and doesn’t mean I will. The thing is I know she’s amazing, and knows just what to say to calm me down or to make me smile when I need it.
I was ready to just keep things as they were, but then I talked to a friend today that gave me some advice he gave me from his therapists and religious leader (he and I are same religion). This advice is something he wished he had before engagement fell apart. The advice was damn anyone or anything (religion included) that would prevent you from being happy. Basically he was saying be with her if she’s as important as I say, compromise to let her have the kids be the same religion as her if need be because in the end it will be you and her. Your family will pass away, and religion won’t hug, kiss or take care of you when sick.
This advice really hit me and started to make me question if I really should consider being with her and damn what the kids religion is because I’ll be happy with her and (in the future) have a happy and healthy kid(s).
Please give me your thoughts on what I should do, as I’m truly confused and torn right now. Also sorry for the book length post. This is a repost as my throwaway account wasn’t able to see the one reply.