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Hi folks,
Thankful I found this community. Recently, I took my five year old to an indoor event where, predictably, we were the only two wearing masks. After looking around, he asked me why no one else had masks on. I gave my general answer of how people make their own choices and we want to keep ourselves safe, but honestly that answer feels ... not quite truthful. I know he was asking the "why" to why people are chosing not to wear masks.
Anybody else out there in the same boat? He's one of three kids wearing a mask in a 250 person school. And rocks his masks. Thanks for the feedback.

I took a break from reddit and only slowly coming back to it again in hope to find some advice.
I feel like my healing has been more stagnant and like it's not going anywhere.
For one example, for the past few years I've adopted a lot of hobbies and each year I would be visibly building up on top of what I already had from the previous year and there would be growth, but this year I just feel clueless in terms of where to grow with it anymore and feels like it came to a stagnant repetition almost and doesn't really have the same effect it use to have.
I have also been having way more emotional dysregulation, way more muscle pain, way more feeling like I don't even know what my needs are anymore. Like I feel like I need to do something new but don't have the energy for it, but I feel stir crazy just being inside and not doing much. I hate feeling like I don't know what to do or what my needs are at this point.
What do you usually do when you feel like that? How does one get out of this feeling like things are not going anywhere and nothing is changing and you just don't even know what to do with yourself anymore?

I remember back when Phase 2 of the MCU was coming and one of the most common criticisms of it was, "Why didn't the characters just call on the other Avengers for help?" or something like that. Of course the actual answer is because it was their own movie and bringing in other characters would take focus away from the main characters (also in-universe reasons like the problems in Iron Man 3, Dark World and Winter Soldier happening both in secret and/or on short notice).
Antman also pokes fun at this when Scott's first instinct is to get the Avengers involved to which Hank Pym says not to, but i think No Way Home also kind of pokes fun at this criticism but in a different way.
In No Way Home, when Peter finds out him and his friends aren't getting into the college they wanted because of Peter's identity getting out, Peter's first thought is to get Dr. Strange in on it to help him, to which he agrees and leads to the rest of the movie. After Stephen does the spell he berates Peter for not taking the simpler path of just talking to the college head when he finds out that Peter didn't do that.
Thus might be a stretch, but I think this scene might be a jab at audiences during Phase 2 when they ask "Why didn't they get the other Avengers involved?", because in this movie Peter doing that not only didn't help the problem, it also made the problem worse.
Again, this might be a stretch or a coincidence, but I thought it was an interesting thought. What do you guys think?

A couple months ago, I made a post about how I didn't care about my father to my sister on his birthday, with the claim of there being so much time without him even attempting to make contact. Part of that post had me share that he claimed he paid child support and had proof, but for one reason or another, wouldn't show it to me for one reason or another whenever I brought it up.
Which leads us to last month, I set a date, that I would visit to take my sister out since I rarely see her, and when I pick her up, I would want whatever proof he had finally in order and put in my hands to go over. What I didn't tell him, was that I was prepared for forgery, having a copy of my mother's signature and other paperwork I could cross reference.
I'm sure you can see where this is heading, it didn't take long to see a forged signature, which upon seeing, I pulled out my copy of her signature and placed it down wordlessly for everyone to see, especially see the difference in said signature. My sister yelled at both of us, his girlfriend yelled at me, and I ended up going home without getting to see my sister for very long.
I waited a while to post this, wondering if I even should, I don't blame myself for this, but I've been keeping my phone on silent since then to attempt to stay out of this family drama, or at least not involve myself more than I already have.
So, for those of you who said he's family and that I absolutely messed up before with terrible reasoning, I'd like to add this horrible lie to my reasons to not care about him.
TL;DR, my dad lied about paying child support, the one thing that might have helped fix our broken relationship, and now that it's exposed, everyone's upset

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Tldr: Long ass rant bitching about my life.
I'm just so full of hate now which sucks, because I used to be a super chill dude but lately me and my mom have have getting hit by some cosmic bullshit beam or something.
First my dad walks out with all the money while me and mom don't have a job.
Then when we're on the verge of starving my grandma cancels a card we borrowed (that pays for some of our food) which caused us to leave behind ALL of our groceries.
Then my cat contracts fleas so bad I can't even step onto my own goddamn floor without 6 of them little fuckers jumping on me.
My hair is breaking so bad I look like a crusty fucking toothbrush.
And FINALLY when I have the energy to actually y'know start turning my life around my bathtub gets clogged and it smells like sewage. As soon as I smelled that shit I instantly just gave up dude like I'm so doneeeee.
I'm so pissed that I wanna break all my shit and punch a hole through the wall, I'm fantasizing about strangling my dad the next time I see him and then shooting him. I've never been a hateful person but I'm just so sick of EVERYTHING. I'm so angry that I wanna DIE.
I actually had my .22 loaded against my throat ready to pull the trigger but the only reason I didn't is because i have sex toys I don't want my family to find after I'm dead lmfao.
It just would've been nice to have a dad that took care of his family before throwing all that responsibility on to me because honestly I don't know what the fuck I'm doing and I'm too broke to do anything anyways.
But also I'm just mad at myself for allowing myself to get to this point. It seems like my life's been one fuck up after another and it's getting hard to cope anymore. I wish I was smarter and more resilient to adversity but instead I get so ANGRY even at the smallest things that it makes me suicidal.
No I can't afford therapy, I can't even afford gas. Yes I'm looking for work so I can afford therapy and gas. Just wanted to vent tbh, thanks for coming to my TED talk.

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I loved my dad so much, and the last time I ever saw him was at the meeting before I was suspended from school for a week for bullying at 11 (yes I'm horribly ashamed and I know I deserve to die for bullying others. Take some solace in the fact I got my karma). He told me how he was horribly disappointed in me and could barely look at me. I used to see him every weekend, but he was so angry at me that he didn't want to see me and went fishing with his friends instead. And he died. All because of me, he drowned all alone. It haunts me every single day. I think this was karma and retribution for how terrible a person I am. I killed him. I think my mom knew it and thought so too, because she never ever spoke his name to me even once after he died. I had no support and was so alone.
I failed my mom over and over after my dad died. By disappointing her like him, by beginning to self harm, by withdrawing, by becoming addicted to weed. By failing in school and skipping all my classes. By becoming so depressed. She told me I'm a loser and it cut me to the core. So badly that I forced myself to become successful. I make 90k a year now at 21, because I became so focused on success and proving to myself and her that I'm not a failure and a loser. It doesn't help. I'm sure shes not proud of me and doesn't care. I'll always be nothing but a loser. I believe people are defined by their past and their actions, and mine have never been respectable or anything but pathetic.
I failed my stepfather who I haven't spoken to in 10 years. Its hard for me to admit this because I am so angry at him and he abused me, but I understand why he did and I see where he was coming from.
I failed my first boyfriend. He was a few years older than me and we had a bad relationship. I once fought with him while he was in the hospital. I'm ashamed of that but what am I not ashamed of. We had an open relationship and I eventually started seeing someone else, he begged me to stop and I said no and broke up with him. We online dated long distance for 2.5 years as teenagers, me 14-16 and him 17-19.
I failed my best friend Emma as a teen by being overly attached to her and by becoming mean to her when I felt disregarded. I was in love with her but unable to recognize it. She was the first person to offer me support and sympathy after my dad died and I just latched on so hard. I became codependent on her and felt threatened by others, eventually telling her she was a horrible person and awful friend when she left to hang out with other people instead of me, ending our friendship forever.
I failed my other best friend, also Emma (lol), by yelling at her and ending our friendship. Honestly, she was the only person I ever connected with on a deep level and felt totally comfortable with. I still feel sad that I don't know her anymore even though its been 6 years or so. I miss her sense of humour. I was angry because she moved away, and every time she came back to our town, she expressed how miserable she was and how she just wanted to go back to her boyfriend, texting him the whole time. I got upset and told her she clearly didn't care about me and just went home and we never spoke again.
Now I'm failing my poor boyfriend, whose father has died 5 months ago, as I'm having a horrible bout of depression and can't be as supportive as I have been recently. He recently in anger told me 'this is why I never talk to you about anything, because you're so high strung 24/7 and can't handle it'. Honestly I feel devastated. I've stuck by his side for the past 3 years while his dad was diagnosed with cancer and went through treatment and then was diagnosed terminal and eventually passed. All I've ever done was try to be supportive and I guess I've completely failed. I don't think what hes saying is wrong, obviously I have my own problems and I struggle a lot, and sometimes I talk about myself (something he asked me to please not do since he is going to through a lot). Hes told me before I just make his life worse and more stressful. I believe him, but every time I try to break up over it he gets very upset, so I stay. I've told him I'll probably never change and I will leave him alone if thats what he wants, but he never does.
I failed my last group of close friends by slowly dissolving our friendship. I ghosted them for a few months because they were angry at me for being too depressed to hang out. Its hard to explain but our group slowly dissolved and I know at the core its my fault.
I failed my grandparents on my dads side by losing contact with them through being too depressed and socially anxious to pick up the phone or see them. They eventually stopped calling, and I know it hurt them. I'm sorry for what I've done.
I also failed myself. I sought out sexual abuse online between 11-16 from pedophiles because it made me feel wanted and loved and better. I chose it, unlike so many who didn't have a choice. I guess it was grooming the first time or two, but every other was a choice. I failed myself by denying myself a normal relationship with sex this way. I failed myself covering my body in scars. I failed myself by getting fat. I failed myelf by destroying everything I've ever loved. I've failed myself in every area of my life so badly its not even funny.
The truth hurts, and I'm a horrible and disgusting person who deserves to be miserable and to rot. I haven't been suicidal in a few years but this past week its back full force, maybe worse than ever. I can't imagine the world as anything but better without me. I think I am an emotional abuser, manipulative, and evil and NO I can't change. I've been to therapy and I've been to counselling and I've self reflected and nothing every changes. The only thing keeping me alive is the fear of death, since I've now moved out and mom won't find my body.
Stay thirsty my friends.

Hello, I’m looking for a new Gp, and preferably bulk-billing. I have tried to look around on google but the reviews are just awful and im hoping for better advice here. I’m mainly looking for a Gp who has experience with respiratory diseases if that’s realistic.
And as a side ask: I also-to no avail- tried find some sort of clinic or centre that does lung cancer screening? I saw a lot of sponsored sites and guides and support pages, but I couldn’t for the life of me find and actual centre.
Thank you for any advice, sorry for late/no replies, I sleep a lot, much appreciated.
And if you have links for maybe a more appropriate sub-reddit for my question please feel free to link in comments :)

I (18m) got an apartment with my sister a month ago. I owed rent Last Friday. We were around 5 dollars short, but I decided to send it anyway as I get paid tomorrow. So I get the confirmation email and I think that’s that. Fast forward to yesterday I get sent 3 late fees around $250. I say what the hell? So I tried to resend it through. Then the next day I get hit with a return fee. This might not seem like a big deal to a lot of people but im living off 15 an hour here. Fast forward to today, I’m looking at another late fee because they turned off e-checks. They didn’t tell me any of this could happen. Hopefully there’s no next time with this scenario but what can I do to avoid if it does happen? Also sorry if this is a jumbled mess I’m typing from an iPhone 5se lol.

I read this book in what i believe was grade 5 at the time and it was about a civilization underground, the character got chosen to be a miner i believe and they find a doovault leading to the surface and they find the surface is a desolate place. This is a very very bad explanation but I would appreciate if somebody could help me out with this.

She is currently with someone who is pretty open about how she’s with her because she’s a celebrity, especially how she talks about her in the beginning. With the people magazine article Jessi will get the attention she wants (though still probably not that much) and potentially lead to more followers. When they eventually fall apart there will be NOTHING stopping Jessi from selling information to any tabloid willing to pay for it.
Lior seems financially stable and has a child to raise and probably doesn’t need or want to bash the child’s mother for a quick (and probably not very large) pay day.
Jessi begs for money constantly. She was worried about her safety and her and Jenna couldn’t pull together $4k to move without begging for it online? You’re trying to look successful with a nice (rented) car and you couldn’t come up with $4k? Four grown adults live in a house together and didn’t have $4k between them…
I guess it’s something to look forward to- when Jessi ultimately sells Jenna and her addiction out for a quick buck. Should be entertaining, far more entertaining than someone claiming to be an influencer when all she actually does is live like a frat boy and make videos in her car repeating words she’s found on memes.

There is a lot of fun that comes out of that always online experience. It's fun to see other people running around in the world and doing stuff. It's also fun to hop in at the drop of a hat to kill some world boss with a stranger. But for the vast majority of my playtime, I am playing alone. And even if I plan to just progress the story on my own right now, I can't even play the video game...

I need help finding someone to talk to about a family member (my 55 year old brother) who is taking advantage of my 86 year old mother and putting a huge stress on our family by freeloading. He has always been this way, and I don't believe he's ever had a job. My mom is WAY too old to deal with this these days (he moved in with my sister once and came between she and her husband - they are now getting a divorce). We have gotten him several trailers to live in over the years and he absolutely trashes them to the point they need to be hauled away to the dump. Can't do that anymore, way too expensive. Every time we confront him on his behavior, he gets a mysterious illness that brings him to the edge of "death." It's obviously complete BS (he's done this hundreds of times over the years, and those life threatening "illnesses" always miraculously disappear). We have actually kicked him out in the past, and he's been homeless, and then someone in the family gets a soft heart and brings him back in. But I seriously can NOT do this anymore. He doesn't appear to have a mental problem, but the fact that he has always done this speaks to a possible mental disorder of some kind I suppose. He is extremely smart and VERY manipulative and always seems to come out on top. He has completely taken over my mother's house and has blacked-out all the windows and removed all the lightbulbs. He also demands that everything be completely silent when he sleeps - which is from about 10pm to noon or 1pm the next day and yells at my mother if she does something that upsets him. She has a chair that she is supposed to be using, but he has taken that for himself. He also takes her car all day long presumably doctor shopping for schizo meds (Long story, but we caught him doing that). He presents fake illnesses for doctors who prescribe pain meds for him. (He does have diabetes, and so the doctors all prescribe him meds for that, which he has stored in a cupboard and has never used, but there are a bunch of empty medication bottles for schizophrenia -can't remember the name of that drug). None of us knows where to go or what to do about him, and we need to know who to talk to about this. This has literally gone on for decades. And here's the kicker: my mother will not allow ANY of her other kids to take action against him. I've contacted the police to see if we can get a restraining order or something, but they said as long as she welcomes him, there is nothing they can do. I'm sorry if this is the wrong venue, but if you have any information about what the right course of actions is, I am all ears. Please HELP!

I was changing my name tag just a bit ago, and I noticed a few letters weren't able to be used. I've known of the heart symbols being banned, and just shrugged it off due to the potential reasons.
But I just found out the letter "ō" isn't able to be used?? I find it really strange and was wondering if anyone maybe knows why, lol. You can use ū, and basically everything else, but just specifically ō is being shunned...

Have a good amount of hours now into the game and this is what I think would be helpful at least.
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- Towards the end you find yourself hording gear, aspects etc etc. Bigger stash sizes or more would be perfect.
- Obols from completing NM dungeons, Higher Tier = more Obols. They kinda become void at the end game mark unless your doing world events.
- Portal in town for using a NM sigil ( Kinda like Grifts and rifts )
- Right clicking on party members to teleport to would be helpful
-Tweaks to the re-rerolling, it costs so much 1 enchant is almost 400k every time. ( Even bring back pets to pick up gold so we have extra income on the side?? )
- Item filters, whites and blues end game are pointless if we could filter them out that would be great.
-Sound filter to work with sacred and ancestral not just rares.
- Dummy targets in town to test out dmg
-CDR on the horse if you have to move down a ladder or etc..
- Higher WT will increase the spawn rate on events find myself sat around waiting every time. Sames goes for the events in dungeons ( However effected by tier lvl )
- Obols for a cache of mats
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I am practicing system design and this problem seems to be pretty common. I have read about it quite a bit but it's always in theory.
Does anyone know any good implementations in Java preferably that implement it? Most of these interviews are 30-45 minutes so I don't believe it would be expected to write out say a full Dynamo implementation. I think if you could do get(key), put(key, value) and implement consistent hashing and simulate multiple servers that would be a solid start.
Any resources or implementations of this? Only decent one I could find was : https://www.freecodecamp.org/news/design-a-key-value-store-in-go/
However it is in GO and is a bit different as its a transactional key-value store.

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I’ve met with 2 BK lawyers, both very experienced, both members of NACBA, and am now trying to figure out who to go with. Advice was more or less the same: the file a chapter 7 separate from my husband who has an asset to protect, think about him filing 13 later.
One is older, more expensive, more loquacious and also a longtime “chapter 7 bankruptcy panel trustee” — I’m not sure what that means? They’ve been a trustee? Is that common? This one hazarded a potentially clever but also potentially sketchy piece of advice that they said they’d deny — good or bad sign?
The other has lots of positive google reviews, was clearly super knowledgeable and offered some possibilities around our car loan (not reaffirming, but looking into possible redemption with companies that do that sort of thing if the payment would be less in the short and long term). Cheaper by a grand.
Gut feelings?