Firefly in my room spiritual meaning

Assalamuaykom warahmatu Allah dear brothers and sisters,
I'm writing this post because I would like to recieve guidance on how to take matters from this time on in my endeavor for marriage. I will give you guys a little bit of background information so you can understand my situation.
2 years prior to know or this year I was working (I am still now btw) in a supermarket as a cashier. I got to meet a muslim sister and as time went ahead we had the opportunity to work together and get to know each other a little bit more. I was not really thinking much about it. But one day I finished working for the day and as I was about to leave she told me before I go home she wanted to tell me something. It was all in a public and a professional setting, so Allhamdulillah no haram or awkwardness involved. As we exchanged words we told each other what we were studying at school.
As I was leaving she gave me her instagram, because she wanted to give me the school discord channel for computer science because she had a friend of hers that was studying computer science too and thought it could be of a helfull resource for me.
I found it very bizzare that she would give that to me out of the blue, not something that I was excpecting, I worked with other msulim sisters at that suermarket and never something happened like this. Nonethless this really threw off track because knowing myself that I am a very introverted guy. Anyways we just continued talking to each other at work casually and sometimes when we stumbled upon each other at school (we were studying at the same campus at that time). Anyways when summer came and exams were finished I had developed a sense of attraction to her. That was also the time where we started talking less and less to each other, partly because I was getting nervous when seeing her (I am an introverted guy and she is very extroverted and sociable). Anyways that attraction was really starting to get problematic because I could not get her out of my mind. So for that I avoided talking to her at any cost just to protect my chastity and to respect her boundaries. So what I did is I unfollowed her on instagram and deleted my instagram.
The year after that summer I got to know an islamic student association that I joined that year too. By chance I discovered that she was part of it too. Because of the feelings that I developed, we never talked to each other that year as I felt that we did not talk to each other in that whole it would feel very wierd to just casually walk up to her and start talking. That's why I started getting myself ready to just manup and propose to ask for her hand in marriage.
As of this year she changed campus and ended her ties (on good terms) with the ties student association, that means that our contact is offcially also cut. Out of fear to live with that regret of not attempting to ask for her hand I decided to get advice this summer Insh Allah about how to approach her in a respucful way and not unexpected.
In my situation the only connection I do have in common with her Is another muslim sister friend of her that I used to work with together which we still have a very amicable tie with. I don't know any o her brothers or father: we do have friends in common, but that's the road that I want to take the least to keep it very private and humble.
How would you guys advice me to approach her for this matter the best way that will not freak her out and for me also to come over as a respectable young man?
Baraka Allahu feekom in advance for your advice.

Recently opened an account at a new bank (Truist) because they had a good bonus going on. Beyond this, I’ve had the same bank my whole adult life so I’ve just never done this before.
Today was the first day my direct deposit should have hit. I go to log in to online banking and am prompted with a screen stating I’m locked out and need to call Truist customer service. I do so. Customer service tells me I need to call a Fraud Detection Agency and then call them back.
I call the Fraud Detection Agency. I verify my info, they take a bunch of information, send me a link to scan my ID, etc. They tell me I’m all good and to call Truist back and state that I spoke to them.
I call Truist and explain what happened. No one knows how to help me. They keep telling me to call the Fraud Detection Agency. I state I did already and they told me I was all good. Eventually I get “I don’t really know how to help you. I guess you could try going into a branch.”
Should I go into a branch? I know the default is probably yes, but I work two jobs so this means taking time out of my workday to do it. Should I wait a few days and call them back before taking time off work to go to the branch? I don’t want to cause an issue if it just is taking some time for paperwork to process, but they have my money and I can’t access my account.

(I kindly reccomend to read my other 5 posts to understand this one better).
Good evening. I am the same person who wrote a post around 5 days ago called "My last post on this reality". I planned this to be my last post, as I felt I said everything in my other 4 posts that I considered to be undiscussed about shifting.
And then I actually left. But I remembered some things that I forgot to say.
Before all lf this, I have noticed that my last post have caused some controversy. Many people believed it to be ilogical, therefore saying that I was lying.
I offer my apologies. What I say is indeed true, but I have accidentaly left out some details about my OR, making my post unconsistent. I have answered all of your questions in the comments.
The problem with this is that there are certain things that are obvious about my or, the same way you would forget to explain some things about this reality, if you were explaining this reality to someone who is from another reality. I am talking about that kind of things that are obvious, and therefore ignored.
Now that I have excused myself; some days after leaving this reality, I was meditating again, in my waiting room. And i remembered a couple of things that may be holding you back from shifting. So lets go.

1. Separate your DR from your CR. I was thinking, if the mechanism behind shifting, is to just imagine yourself to be in your intented reality, as to enter the matrix of info of your ir, then, why dont daydreamers shift realities?

Because what daydreamers do is litterally that; they lay on their bed, and before sleeping they imagine taking part in a world, sometimes, their daydream so realistic that they can even laugh or cry depensing on it.
And then I though, "well, they dont intend to wake up there". But that is not true. That is their perfect world, and they HAVE a platonic desire to wake up there. And then I started thinking, that the answer behind this question may be what makes a difference between a failed and a succesfull shifting attemtp.
And I came to the answer; daydreamers think of their daydream as a part of their cr. They dont think about it as a different reality; they think of it as a simple fantasy, that occurs in their CR. So, next time you visualize in a shifting attempt, make sure you view your visualisation as another reality. Nothing to do with your CR.

1. Dont view shifting as a chore. I have ready mentioned this before, two or three posts ago, but this time I will elaborate.

So, lets say you go to your bed. You lay; and you inmediatly start affirming. Stop.
Why are you affirming? Because you are channeling an intention in this words. A desire. To gaslight your subcon and enter the matrix of info of your IR.
And now answer to me. Answer honestly. When you go to the next shifting attemtp, are you eager to shift to your IR? Or are you just rutinely doing your method, half doubting your success?
And most importantly, do you truly desire to shift to your IR? Or are you just wanting to escape this CR?
Listen, shifting to escape isnt bad, I shifted out of my OR hundreds of yeara ago.
But, you need to be able to form a genuine intention. I said that shifting doesnt come down to intention only. But intention is a crucial part of the shifting process.

1. My initial plan was to come to this reality, spend 2 weeks on it and after writing my posts, to leave. So I did this, but after I came back here (now) and had an idea.

I will start a research paper on clones. I will leave this reality for a month of two. While keeping track of what my clone does. And then I will show you the result, so that we can finally uncover the mystery of clones, versions of you, or whatever the hell they are.
Happy shifting :).
See y'all in a while.
Bye.

Hey, so I'm currently playing a spear build that I stole from this post (defensive version). However my accuracy isn't great, the damage output isn't great either, and it's not uncommon for me to need to save scum because I get absolutely annihilated wherever I go. I just got to level 8 and I'm following a slightly modified version of the build.
Now I know that in theory you're supposed to throw spears and then when you do that you have to run to pick them up again. But what if I used heavy armor instead? I mean, I've got psi abilities and all, that can serve as backup if I lose both my spears.
I was thinking of modifying the build to make it look like this and have kind of a tin can + spear + psi build like this. What do you guys think?

Almost. If you live in the woods with bears, if you work late in the city, if you're a cop, sure get a gun. Otherwise, you don't need one, and if you have one, it is many more times likely to kill you or a family member than it is a bad guy.
Like many of you here, my dad owned guns, and was a responsible gun owner. So what, that means nothing now.
If you say I and people like me are impediments to getting anything meaningful done .. maybe. Maybe not.
Here are the deaths I want to get rid of: guy gets mad/frustrated/temporarily insane; finds a gun; kills people.

I have a brand new argument for God. I think this may be one of the strongest arguments I have seen yet. It's not directly about consciousness itself but specifically about David Chalmer's "Meta problem" of consciousness. (I wrote this out for an acquaintance, thought I would adapt it for reddit and get your guys opinions, apologies if its argumentative).
I would like to start off by saying that I think it’s completely possible there is an atheist/materialist answer for consciousness. This argument does not require me to say otherwise.
Before I say my argument let’s first establish consciousness. Im using the philosophical definition of consciousness. Consciousness is your qualia/experience. It's sometimes referred to as “the hard problem of consciousness”, the problem is why do we experience qualia?
My favorite example of qualia, is that we can see and visualize the color red. But red does not exist. How do you build something that experiences and visualizes red?
I can build a machine that outputs photons of that wavelength. I can even build something that inputs and labels photons of that wavelength.
But we do not know how to build something that visualizes red. Yet I do, I can double check this by staring at red.
Regardless of what your explanation for this phenomenon is, we can agree that there is indeed a question of how do we recreate my ability to experience and visualize red. That question is the hard problem of consciousness.
A second way to explain consciousness, is Thomas Nagel’s question “What is it like to be a bat?”. The question I like to ask is “What is it like to be an iphone?” I can program (happiness == 20) into an iphone. So why to the average person, does Thomas’s question make sense but my question seems silly?Thats because people believe bats experience qualia while iphones do not. Why is it “like” something to be a bat but not an iphone? That is the hard problem of consciousness.What does an iPhone need so that it is indeed “like” something to be an iPhone.The third way to perhaps explain it is, imagine a sleepwalking human. Some people are such good sleepwalkers that you can’t even tell they’re sleep walking. You can even hold conversations with them. But they aren’t experiencing that conversation. What if I revealed to you I’ve been sleepwalking my entire life, but function the exact same an normal human being. The only difference would then be consciousness.The main question is why doesn’t everything just happen in the dark?I also don’t think it’s sufficient to just say consciousness is an illusion. An illusion requires a perception to begin with. And the fact that we have a perception at all is the hard problem here.Consciousness is the actually the only thing I can truly be sure exists————————————Now that we have established consciousness exists let's establish an important characteristic of consciousness. (The argument is after this section, this just sets it up)We can observe the brain. Everything going on within a brain follows physics.There is no unexplainable force observed in the brain. And if you look for one, you likely won’t find it.The brain doesn’t require such a thing to function.I like to use the analogy of dominos to represent your brain. Theoretically it would be possible to build a mechanical supercomputer out of dominos, then “upload” your brain to this structure. Whether its technically possible isnt important. Its just an analogy to remind everyone that brains are really just complex chain reactions that follow physics.Atheists will tell you that qualia/consciousness is an emergent property. That your qualia/experience of red emerges from the domino set and its chain reactions processes. I’m not going to disagree with thatBut it must be acknowledged, that whether or not consciousness emerges from my domino structure.Those dominos are going to fall the exact same way, because like your brain, these dominos follow our current understanding of physics.This means that consciousness has no physical impact, that it is a detached byproduct. Consciousness cannot change the physics of dominos.The domino structures that cause consciousness may be important. But if consciousness/qualia itself did not exist, everything would still function fine. All the dominos would still fall the exact same way. Everything in a brain would still follow physics.If the brain truly did have an unexplainable force affecting it, religious people would never stop bringing it up in debate: “we’ve discovered the soul”. I thinks it’s safe to say we have discovered no such thing.’————————————Now for the actual argument:Even if we say that there are atheist answers for consciousness/qualia, there’s still a massive issue.What did my domino setup/brain just do for you? My body was physically setup to rant about how it’s experiencing this consciousness/qualia phenomenon. Then it also turns out that I actually am experiencing a consciousness/qualia phenomenon.That is a coincidence that cannot be reconciled by atheists.Consciousness/qualia can’t have physical impact and can’t rewire your bodies beliefs. There are a lot of possible random beliefs I could have happen to had, but for some reason the obscure belief I come built-in with, just happens to be correct.There are three possible answers to this:

1. it really is just a massive coincidence
2. Consciousness only comes to those physically setup with the obscure belief that they are experiencing a consciousness phenomenon
3. Intentional design (The one that I think is the most likely)If you really meditate on the first 2 options you figure out that they are really bad answers. They have really bad implications and mechanics.Addressing option 1: Even if we give atheists the absolute best case scenario: “Oh maybe everything in the universe is conscious” and “perhaps there is evolutionary incentive to have this random belief”. (people will somehow justify anything as evolutionarily advantageous)You still at the end of the day believe that it’s just one massive coincidence that the “evolutionarily advantageous” belief just so happens to be true.Because in an alternate universe where consciousness/qualia doesn’t exist, my dominos would fall the exact same way and would still store this specific random belief of qualia. Its crazy that there just so happens to be this “magic-like” qualia phenomenon to actually match it, and make my otherwise wrong belief, true. (And this is assuming that it indeed is evolutionarily advantageous)At some point when you see dream luck, you point out that it’s not luck.Addressing option 2: The second atheist option is just as bad. You believe that if a human doesn’t have the obscure underlying belief of qualia that they don’t actually experience things like pain or red, that they are “forever a sleepwalking robot”. In addition to this the consciousness phenomenon would somehow need a mechanism to tell whether or not a domino structure is setup with the underlying qualia belief.At some point I must acknowledge that intentional design is the most likely answer here. That God intentionally gave the belief of consciousness/qualia to match the provided consciousness/soul.Read some of the gospel. I think it’s safe to say that I’m dying a Christian. I recommend giving a church sermon a try.

Been in this field for almost two years now. In this short amount of time, I've witnessed a "phenomenon" among my peers, as well as among friends who work in IT. So, as a certified self-taught junior developer who studied social sciences in college, I propose a sociological hypothesis:
Certain individuals or groups, when acquiring knowledge or skills in a specific domain, are more prone to rapidly develop overconfidence and exhibit niche superiority, subsequently forgetting the challenges and uncertainties they faced during their initial learning stages. This phenomenon is influenced by a combination of psychological factors, social dynamics, and cognitive biases.
When you're a junior at a new job, or maybe a wholly new field, it does feel overwhelming at times. There is quite a steep learning curve, there's the doubt, there's new people, and most importantly for this essay, there is frustration. But not frustration with code ^{which is a totally legit frustration btw}, frustration with your tasks as an employee. And even more specifically, frustration with the wording, the concepts, the explanation given to you. To quote M. Foucault: "You don't understand shit and it's because knowledge is shaped by power relations"
Which brings us to the importance of mentors. ^{Shoutout to any mentors reading this, be easy on your juniors}. Before diving into the exciting overview of mentorships as tools of corporate indoctrination on the following 35 pages, I shall again propose another sociologial hypothesis:
In the context of mentorship, the presence of bad mentors who teach juniors in an inefficient manner can lead to the reproduction of ineffective teaching practices among future mentors. This phenomenon is perpetuated through socialization processes, cognitive biases, and structural constraints, resulting in a cycle of ineffective mentorship.
If I had to describe the process to a programmer, it would look similar to this, whatever this is:

while(true) { receiveKnowledge() receiveBehaviour() impartKnowledge() impartBehaviour() } 

It's like a square. But without the edges.
To take a break from the theory, geometrical and sociological, and to better illustrate the points made thus far, I have conducted interviews with exactly n=420 people. Their stories are presented below, starting with Emma, 20:

When I joined this f *** ing IT company as a backend developer, they paired me up with a useless motherf *** ing mentor who couldn't explain a damn thing in a way that made any f *** ing sense to me. It was frustrating as f ********** ck, like trying to decipher a f *** ing secret code while getting kicked in the v * g. Every time I asked for help, all I got was a bunch vague bulls ** t so I just stopped trying, you know? It actually made me question if the c *** sucker conducting this interview knows how to match their own f *** ing socks, let alone match mentors with juniors.

Not only is the frustration evident with Ms. Emma, who is still suffering under the same mentor, she's also ^very rude, thus no wonder that her coworker Natalie, who is still angry about not being invited to Emma's barbecue, forced me to include her counter point:

Juniors, might I add, deserve their abuse at the hands of smarter, cooler mentors.

For the purposes of this dissertation I had to shorten the Emma - Natalie drama to three pages, however the whole audio log will be available on Netflix this summer in the form of a reality show.
But where does this lead us? We have the bad mentors, who are not understood by the people they're mentoring. The juniors internalize not just the sparse knowledge gained, but the behavioral elements as well. We have those juniors then reproducing the knowledge in the same way they received it - incomprehensible and stubbornly confident. Here we get examples of juniors saying things like:

(* snarky tone *) Who even uses Google anymore?
OMG {insert_linux_os} is for noobs
Just add the absolute path to the xml with the IP of the third server behind the second Oak tree, obviously. What do you mean obviously, which f *** ing forest are we talking about? Check the docs, maybe?! You didn't make any f **** ing docs, Natalie! Well maybe I WOULD IF I FELT INCLUDED!

Which brings us to the conclusion: In order to liberate ourselves from the constraints of this rigid and unproductive dynamic, the perpetual cycle^oh! of bad mentorship spawning new offspring imitating their practices and their high horses, we need to challenge the structural factors that perpetuate such a stagnant mentorship arrangement. By interrogating the power dynamics, hierarchies, and systemic barriers within the organizational framework, we can begin to envision alternative models that foster genuine learning, effective communication, and mutual support.

I don’t see how the Heat could possibly beat Denver. Denver is well rested. Huge home court advantage. The Heat can muck up games playing against the Celtics or Giannis. But Denver’s offense is too free flowing and Jokic has always cut up Bam. And then Jimmy Butler vs Jamal Murray and Jokic as scorers late game?
Idk man. Anything’s possible for the Heat, but I was worried about the Celtics vs Heat because quite frankly the Celtics consistently beat themselves and the Heat are great at capitalizing on that. Insanely good defensive team that mixes it up and mucks it up vs more talented teams. Can punish sloppy play extremely well. Golden State did it last year. Both teams (Heat and Warriors) are EXTREMELY well coached and make great adjustments. Miami almost did it last year (when the Celtics were absolutely on fire for the second half of season and had a by all means great coaching staff compared to this year.) Yet they have a much worse roster this year with injuries. The Celtics got theoretically much better
The Celtics win by being very good when Tatum goes off, which he does relatively often in the playoffs. Especially in big games. They’d always win those games and then mostly lose when he had the bad games. Which he does relatively often. But they’d win at a good clip when he has an average game because of good to great defense and great role players (who can get taken out of the game by GREAT coaches and schemes.) Look at the rosters of teams with 2 super stars. No one has a 3-7 even close to as good as the Celtics. That’s their recipe
Just really disappointed by this season. Disappointed with Joe coming back. He’s too inexperienced. Not saying he can’t be great. But his press conferences and public mindset on things doesn’t give me hope. Can’t take a shot in the dark with one of the best teams in the league coming off a finals appearance. Was upset when he got an extension because of an unprecedented hot shooting start that died down.
Disappointed in Jaylen Brown who has some weird ass and hypocritical takes on the world IMO he shouldn’t publicize. Him being a part of demanding a black coach (imagine Luka or Jokic publicly demanding a white coach lol) or at least getting players on board for the Black coach thing was probably part of this mess. (Couldn’t bring in Vogel or Dantoni this season and like why not pick Stoudamire to avoid weird power dynamics with the staff because of him being one of Ime’s choices (the rest of the staff was) and him being oldemuch experienced around basketball. And I don’t think it’s fair for Brown to have so much influence on team stuff when he doesn’t improve his handle or turnover issue. Doesn’t improve as a passer. Etc. Maybe he’s stubborn/ignorant to admitting he’s wrong? Idk. Doesn’t seem to be a work ethic issue. Like he has improved and he’s presumably working hard but it’s not at the right stuff. IMO trading him now would be short sighted with his stock low + there not being good options that move the needle for the Celtics. Maybe should have before? Hindsight is 20/20 I guess
Maybe shouldn’t be so invested in this team because they somewhat consistently show poor effort. I’ve just always, always rooted incredibly hard for this core for some reason I can’t explain. But now It’s hard to root for them vs teams like the Patriots or Red Sox who are always going to give their best in the playoffs win or lose.
Just a disappointing yet pretty predictable post season after last year’s that was so fun to see the turnaround and very inspiring/fun even with the not so close finals loss.
Writing this makes me think I should be a much more casual sports fan for things out of my control. Smh. That’s my rant
I root for this team because they’re so capable of greatness. Legit one of the best modern NBA defenses of all time last year. One of the best offenses to start this season. On the verge of greatness in a 3-0 comeback (which I kinda felt was possible down 3-0.) And then COMPLETELY fold at home in game 7
TLDR: Disappointed. Big mistakes from Brad, Ime, Joe, Jaylen who are all good at their jobs. Avoidable mistakes.

You were always there, floating just beneath my skin. I remember a scene from class 9th and one from my PG college days. I was in class 9th. Nothing had happened. My mother screamed at me. She always screamed. But this time I couldn't hold it in and I told her with choked voice. "You talk to me harshly ( or something on the same lines). She screamed again at me. My mother never talked. She yelled. She screamed. Her voice was always shrill, full of hatred. I was 21 and at friend's house getting ready for a freshers party. She was standing in the middle of the room surrounded by her family members. Her sister was finding the right jewelry for her. He younger sibling was adjusting her dress. Her mother was in kitchen making something for her. I was standing at the side, quite deliberately and looking at them with hungry eyes. Part of me was watching them and wishing if anything like that could happen to me. I was always left alone while dressing up at home. My mother and my younger sibling would get ready together, giving each other feedbacks and I would always be on side, combing my short hair and wishing someone would come to me and help me get ready. In both these cases I remember and many more I am yet to recall, You were 'in the living room'; the acting part. But I could never recognize you nor could muster courage to clearly elicit/understand that your need, my core need is love.
And after that, you were crumbling down till broken. Tears, Tears, Tears. I used to cry at night because I am an 'orphan', I have no one, Tears when I am talking to someone, studying, happy...Tears for no reason.
In this whole whirlpool, I couldn't identify you. And so I couldn't be with you. I have always felt your grief. But today when I realized your presence, I felt your anger. "Why did you delay so much? Why couldn't you be with me earlier? Why couldn't you be with me?" I am sorry. Your anger is justified. You have all right to be angry. Be angry. The righteous part of me wants to tell you that I am here and there is no need to be angry or crying. But that's not true.
Be angry at me. Be angry at me as long as you want, even if you want to be angry for years, so be it. You have the space. A lot of space. I am not here, I am far away so as to not disturb you. But I am listening. Your anger is not vanishing away into nothingness. It is being heard. It is being felt.
I can feel your exhaustion. I am so so sorry. I am here. We will sit together. Not for just a month. (Don't take the worker's words too literally. He has to manage work and so he moves accordingly). We will sit together. Not just for a month. Probably for a life time. And I will grow old. From a young woman to an old granny. And you will transform, from a smoky wet dripping wide grey ball to a beautiful, colorful, fresh lilly.
Warm hugs. We are together in this, whatever this is.
Time - 1:18 am Music - Fix you, coldplay Sensation - Lot of tears; By the end, I caressed my hair with my hand as I am petting her.
# Side comment - Its so good I am not doing any job. I don't think this session, this realization were possible if I were working for someone else.

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This user made an ordinary subway station. In my opinion it's kinda empty but the lights and walls really go well together. There is even a musician playing tunes for money. Nice detail!
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My favorite series is ACOTAR… the issue is there are some spicy scenes in it so that has me weary of it as well but I fell in love with the name Azriel. I think it’s so cute. The meaning is not the cutest. It means “God is my help” but in some other searches it comes up as the Angel of death. I don’t know if I would want my son to be named after the Angel of death… just kinda odd. Would this be awful of me? I want opinions

Not sure if I am in the right place to add this thread, but here it is anyway.
Sooo long story short, I am moving away from my hometown to Chicago and want to know how dumb it would be to sell my car. Obviously, I don’t need a car by any means. I’ll be living in Gold Coast with plenty within walking distance and tons of public transport options.
I bought a new 2023 Honda Civic Ex in December of 2022. (so only had about 6 months now) It has 4,500 miles on it, and is in essentially brand new condition. I took really good care of it. I only got this car because prior car was stolen and totalled back at home and you can’t survive without a car there.
Insurance paid out quite nicely and I was able to put a huge downpayment on the car. I owe about 18k now.
If I keep it in Chicago, I will be paying my $350 car note, $250 insurance and $250 for parking garage (so looking at $850 for a car I probably won’t use more than once a month, bc its such a hastle find parking)
Should I take the loss and sell my car? I know the used market is still hot, so I could hopefully recoup a little bit of money. (and save myself about 10k this year total cost of owning the car on top of any money I can get back.)
Any thoughts on this?
Thanks!

Hi all I am going to start by saying I am a live-in nanny in a HCOL area. My hours are 7-7 Monday-Friday and my salary is $1200.
The NF i work for has a G2 and B7months. While both parents are home in the morning they will ask me to make G2 breakfast, get her dressed, and take her to school. While I am out of the house for that 25 minutes they will make themselves breakfast and leave everything for me to clean.
The mom has also prepared a “checklist” of things that I am required to do daily. I’ll give you a few examples: empty or load dishwasher ( as many times as necessary), wipe counters, clean and sanitize baby bottles and Breast pump parts, clean kids rooms, empty garbages and diaper pails, vacuum,laundry daily, clean areas played in, make baby purées, and clean other items baby uses/plays with. Mind you I do a million other tasks beyond this (groceries, organizing, etc)
80% of the time I am only with one of the children but sometimes I have both. Often I am given the child needing the most attention (meals, changing, tantrums, baths).
I get no formal breaks…basically I can relax when the baby is sleeping (after all My duties are done). The MB once gave me attitude for sitting and eating before clean the kitchen the SHE dirtied..
When I agreed to this position I was told I would be with one child and I’d be responsible for his laundry, toys, play areas/ light housework. I am right in saying that this is more than “LIGHT HOUSEWORK”?? Especially for the same amount of money regardless of my tasks.
Should I ask for more money or establish a boundary on what I am truly feel responsible for and is “light housework “

i have a fetish since my childhood, and i think it’s because of my childhood. I‘m a male in his 20‘s.
little background story : the fetish is about female bodybuilders. I don’t remember how i explored it, i just remember that it’s there. I know that it’s since my childhood, i’ve never watched like normal porn stuff, i even were disgusted by nacked bodybuilders.
i grew up very isolated, no siblings or cousins at my age. My mother herself has undiagnosed mental health issues, my gf knows a lot about psychology and we talked a lot about some of those kinda stuff where i learned what i know today. My mother cant let go of me. Even now she would talk to me like " ohhh my lovely son moms lovely son " etc. Or when she calls my gf she would say like " how’s my son doing has he found friends (i moved) how is he financial " etc.
My gf also doesn’t get along with her anymore, because of some other things too.
i hate how my mother acts and don’t get along with her. I was emotionally abused and manipulated my whole life and my gf opened my eyes since i thought that would be kinda normal. She has very strong views and is extremely narcissistic. Everything she thinks is bad IS bad and everything she thinks is good IS good for everybody, she needs to decide what’s good for you and you have to do it or she is mad.
My father was present in my childhood but not very active since he would work 7days a week full time because my mom was mostly at home because of me. I also was really attached to her as a child, but i didn’t liked my father because he actually tried to teach me how to be on my own but my mom would try to comfort me as much as she can, take " care " of me, " protect " me and everything else. She didn’t allowed me to get my own experiences and explore myself, so she gave me strict rules on how i should be, what should i like, how should i dress and what i should be interested in. I never liked it, but i could never like fight against it. I did as well, but i was the bad one every time. My father stood for me a while in my teenage years but he gave up when i was like 16 or sum because my mom is just too much.
Also, i never had some real friends where i felt like welcome and comfortable. Even if i had fun with them, my mom also would never let me go outside. Not even on my birthdays. And if she would let me go it was like " alright you can go at 2 but you have TO BE HOME at 4" whilst everyone else in my age could go outside when they want just make sure they are home at 7 or 6 (we were all like 11-13) to that age, but it lasted for me till i was like 16.
When we had family meetings, women and men are sitting apart normally. I was mostly with the women ( as a child) (talking about people who were much older then me), i wasn’t allowed to play with the other kids because they would like fight for fun and stuff like that, just like what kids do and my moms thought they were too rough and she thought they would take some advantage from me. I also got bullied in primary school and nobody could do things against it because it was like a group, they bullied and mocked me, when i tried to fight against them, the teacher caught me and i got punished because the group told the that i started to mock them first. They never believed me because it was like 6 vs 1. My aunts, uncle, dad, cousins everyone from my family tried talking to my mom and told her that she can’t treat me like this and let me explore my identity, things i like and i don’t like and things, or let me be who i am. Or better find out who i am.
Everything was criticized, my look, haircuts, style, music taste, the games i play, the movies i watch, i couldn’t watch fictional movies because my mom wanted to "protect" me from those non human looking like characters or as she says "monsters" (talking bout batman, star wars, iron man, hulk, even shrek, harry potter, etc. ) Like every movie that’s fictional and it’s like much fantasy in it.
and to make it clear : i‘m not even like "noticeable " like i never wore like neon clothing or had a "odd" haircut and accessoires. It was just because SHE didn’t like it. I couldn’t have my room as i want, i didn’t had privacy, she threatened me that she will put hidden cameras all over the house so everyone could see me "disgusting behaviour " against her. That she will post it online, told me several times that she will install spy programs on my phone or cams in my room because i would "hide" things from her and to see what i‘m doing in my phone the whole day. Which turned me paranoid till today.
I suffer a lot of problems because of her, i have difficulties being independent, doing things by myself, being creative, being a leader or a strong personality, or even knowing who i am and what my interests are.
i personally think that that could be connected with that fetish.
like i am the weak one, want to be protected and therefore that look which could protect me makes me feel "well". Would it change when i like, get more independent and get a stronger personality by improving myself so i don’t feel the urge to be protected anymore ?
i noticed some changes on how i feel mentally. I also like sports like fitness and like to be active physically.
i‘m already looking for a therapist rn, the medical term is sthenolagnia if someone cares. I don’t even know if i‘m in the right community, i just wanted to know your opinions on this or if somebody has made the same experiences.
It bothers my relationship, my sex life and my mental health extremely. It just causes problems and i want it to go away.
Thank you ! Ask anything you want in the comments

• also a little vent

Okay so this post is going to be a long one but I want to explain the entire situation in hopes someone can find the right solution to this dogs problems.
So about 2 - 3 years ago my cousin thought it would be a good idea to get a puppy. The dog is male, supposedly a Cane Corso mixed with a American Bully although he looks more like a boxer and definitely isn’t as big as the two breeds my cousin claims he is. (I will link a photo). Anyway my cousin works full time and is hardly at home, he lives in a tiny flat (apartment) with a flat mate who is also full time.
As this is the case the dog is left locked in the living room from morning until afternoon everyday, resulting in him not going outside. I work with my cousin and occasionally he’ll go back to let Jax (the dog) out to the courtyard to go for a pee and then puts him back in again.
Recently he’s been asking me to look after the dog while he goes to his girlfriends, or more recently on holiday. I agree to look after Jax every time he asks because although Im not a dog person, I see Jax and feel sad and sorry for him and want to help him as much as possible.
The dog is very skinny, eats really fast, flinches when you touch him, twitches when he sleeps, always has his tail tucked although most the time the end of his tale points out creating a hook, but for the most part it is tucked. I’ve never once seen this dog smile or stick his tongue out, he hardly drinks water and never wants to play with toys.
Now I’ve looked up all these things, it could be anxiety, stress, abuse, fear of being left etc. I don’t actually know what it is. My cousins hits him hard whenever he shits in his flat, which is unfair considering he’s got no other option. But I don’t think he abuses him to the point of beating him up or what not. He loves him I know that but he shouldn’t have him. I’ve said to him that you’re doing the dog no good by hitting him.
All I want to know is how I can make this dog happier. I don’t own a dog, never have. But even I can tell that it’s probably the result of not being exposed to the outside world, being left alone in silence for hours on end, and being hit hard when he makes a little mistake.
Jax always gets excited when he sees me. Even though he doesn’t stick his tongue out or anything like that, he’ll jump up at me and give me a little tail wag. I’m never hard on him whenever I have him. If the dog has shit he comes crawling over really low and lies with his stomach facing up almost waiting to be punished. Never once have I hit or even shouted at him for this, even when he does it in my own house, as I know it does no good. I would like to think the dog remembers this as I’m frightened that one day he’s going to get aggressive. Just today (as of writing this) he went for another dog which he’s never done before and I’m afraid he might eventually turn on people.
Any bit of advice would help, I really want to help Jax before it’s too late.

In early may 2023 I sat in church with my family. The preacher Approached his podium looking war torn sad, and with a worried look on his face. He raised his hands and said. "I've had dreams of god speaking to me. Hes telling me so much. It's almost incomprehensible to me his words they burn my ears as if a red hot iron is being forced into them. What I can gather from him is that the end times are close, and the seven trumpets shall call it forth. Now my children As your preacher, my intention are to deliver a sermon that not only explains the significance of the seven trumpets being sounded but also encourages individuals to reflect on their own lives and prepare themselves for the end of the world.
The seven trumpets are significant in the book of Revelation as they represent the final warning of God's judgment on the earth. The first four trumpets describe catastrophic events that will result in widespread destruction and devastation. The fifth trumpet describes a swarm of locusts that will torment those who have not been sealed by God. The sixth trumpet describes an army of 200 million that will bring destruction upon the earth, and the seventh trumpet announces the final judgment of God.
The sounding of these trumpets serves as a warning to all of us that the end of the world is near, and we must prepare ourselves accordingly. As we read in the book of Revelation, the effects of these trumpets will be catastrophic, and those who have not prepared themselves will face a terrible fate.
Therefore, we must examine our own lives and make sure that we are prepared for the end of the world. We must ensure that our hearts and minds are focused on God and that we are living our lives according to His will. We must repent of our sins and ask for God's forgiveness, so that we may be sealed by Him and protected from the judgments that are to come.
In conclusion, the sounding of the seven trumpets serves as a warning to us all that the end of the world is near, and we must prepare ourselves accordingly. We must make sure that our hearts and minds are focused on God, and we must repent of our sins and ask for His forgiveness. Let us heed this warning and prepare ourselves for the return of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen."
Finishing up he smiled at us all as he pulled a pistol from his robe putting it in his mouth squeezing the trigger and blowing the back of his head apart. Painting the statue of jesus christ behind him with a grotesque mosaic brain matter, skull fragments and so much blood. After the cops were called his building in the church were searched. The two nuns that accompanied him hanging and they're chambers and bleed dry. In his quarters They found the he used the blood and painted on his walls repeatedly. The seventh trumpets shall sound they shall sound. This was painted and cover the entirety of his room. After this was done the church was closed and we never went back.
Then it happened The two witnesses show on june 7th 2023, in an attempt to save humanity, they spread the gospel of God explaining to all those who were willing to listen, but most turned a blind Eye with this. The two witnesses then had no choice, but too have the first of seven trumpets sound. The first Trumpet sounds with the echo across the world. More of a vibration than a noise many people had not known it went off. After it had stopped Hail began to fall from the sky with a drastic change. The Hail went from solid small pieces of ice to pieces of Red hot glass as it hit the ground it burnt everything in touched. Within two weeks it spread across the world. Because of this most of the world's vegetation Burnt to the ground, leaving nothing but melted glass and ash across the lands. With this a three hundred day war breaks out across the world. Nations began to fight for what food was left in the world. As april approached the war ended with no victor. With hundreds of thousands dead the world went into mourning. Realizing that the war caused nothing but harm to the world. Bringing the sadness and pain to all those that had to be involved. Countless families torn apart so many wounded so many dead. Children without fathers or Mother's, wife's mourning Their husbands. mothers screaming and crying over the lose of their children. The world fell silent as it realized that if they had listened Maybe none of this would have happened. None of that mattered now. Now there was too much pain, too much anger, and too much hate. The world blamed god for all this tragedy that had happened to them as a whole. They cursed it's name. Those who had faith in God, Started to doubt they felt as though God itself had left them. How could something so powerful, So all-knowing do this to them. It wasn't fair, was God acting out like a child? How could God be all-powerful and be jealous that not every single being on the Earth showed it Love and loyalty. what kind of power hungry thing Was God? if this is what god was They didn't want to believe they didn't want to follow. They wanted to forget they wanted to abandon it. Seeing this the witnesses called out to the world. Trying the best they could to get everyone to understand why God was doing what it was doing. This caused more problems than good. People started burning churches to spite god. No longer were churches safe no longer could families go and feel safe and at peace. Now churches were taboo and known to be a place of death.
Not having convinced the world the witnesses called forth the second trumpet to sound. The sound of the second trumpet was unlike anything humanity had heard. To most that could comprehend the sound described it as if thunder was crying out in pain. On the last day of April the sky looked as though it was being torn open by the sound of the trumpet. Stopping abruptly people from all over the world could see that the sky had in fact had been torn open like a wound, and from that wound spilled an asteroid that resembled a blood clot. The asteroid was said to be the size of mount everest. Slowly it fell towards the earth. The closer it came to earth the more people felt a sense of dread and sorrow. Knowing that once it hit all would be turned to ash. People stood in shock as the mountain of an asteroid split in to smaller pieces and falling to the world's oceans. Hitting the water with such forces tsunamis to accrue across the plant killing thousands. Over the next few day the pieces decayed into the waters turning them into a viscera soup, killing roughly a third of all sea life. People started smelling the rot that came from the now think blood like ocean waters. Noticing the animals dying out and rotting giving the bloody ocean a acid like state causing those who lived on the waters to die slowly and painful. Soon people left the oceanside for they no longer could fish for food to survive.
In less than a year the world's oceans became a gelatinous mass of blood and gore. Spreading sickness and suffering to most if not all of the world's population the sickness only caused pain and discomfort but never death.
By July 2026 the Temples that once held weekly services to worship and praise God, were now completely abandoned and avoided by all that still lived. Knowing that their voices would fall to deaf ears the witnesses sound led the third trumpet. The sounds a weeping was heard throughout the disease ridden word. Knowing that a new plague approached the weak and trembling people hid the best they could. A flash of green light flooded the sky as a second asteroid came for the heavens. This one devolved in the air turning to light rain. Only hitting the lakes ponds and every other body of water. Seeing that nothing had changed the slowly dwindling population went back to what lives they could live. Unfortunately over the next year many died of was thought to be from dehydration no matter how much water they'd consume. Looking back the people that were left realized that all the waters had been poisoned. Those who survived learned what was safe to drink and what caused a slow labored death. The ones who died suffered incredible pain as their insides turned to a mess of rot and decay. Slowly they'd rot throwing up their literal guts and organs until nothing was left. At the end of the year only a quarter of the earth's population was left. Roaming what was left of the war torn lands searching for some sense of peace only to find rage pain and death at every corner of the world. Then the witnesses sounded the forth trumpet it was a quiet dull sound the next few weeks. The skies began losing light as if the sun was dying. The night sky was now a void of darkness with no stars in sight and a fading moon. Slowly darkness was all the people knew. Christmas came that year some people tried to show they had faith once again. Setting up small groups to share the holiday spirit most were meet with hatred but some were welcomed with loving arms. With their all seeing eyes the witnesses observed with hope that the world was going to change for the betterment of all. Then the new year started with a major power claiming that they held the right to command over what was left in the world for they had more of a population and those who disagreed would be delt with a swift and painful experience. This well, this caused so much to happen and none of it was good. People started looting fight and killing just because they knew they could. There was no rules anymore and people took full advantage of that. What's no hesitation? The witnesses sounded the fifth trumpet. The trumpet Sounded as though A million babies were screaming out in causing everyone to drop to their knees and hold their ears. The sound penetrated them, causing mass hysteria. With an hours of the Trumpet sounding hells Pit of torment Tour open from the Earth's crust and from it, a rupted millions upon millions of locust. Please locust tour through homes, buildings, and people. The sound that they made made people tear At their ears shoving Anything that they could get their hands-on into their own ears Just to stop the sounds from entering their body. This went on for 5 months, then abruptly all that's a locust died. Falling from the sky, as a terrible reminder. Once they all fell to the ground the sixth trumpet screamed out calling forth an army of two million undead warriors, for the next eighteen months they search and brutally attacked and killed close to a third of the male population leaving nothing but death in their wake, once they had accomplished their task they caught fire burning up the locusts and their own bodies to dust. As a calmness came over the world the witnesses came forth speaking of the coming of christ itself, and those who are righteous shall know peace and all others shall know pain and death. In a show of power the witnesses disappeared in a flash of bright blue light and a clap of thunder that shook all that was left. The sky opened as a voice echoed through the ears of all people. Tellimg them to fall to their knees and beg for forgiveness and show that they have true faith in God for if they don't it would strike them down sending them to hell. With much fear, anger, pain, and hatred. People of the world lashed out, calling the so called one true God a false God a sad and jealous God end they would not Worship follow or do, as is it commanded and for it's so-called chosen one, it could also turn back and never return. For they As people of the world would find their own way they could live. Be happy and grow they would turn this world back in to something lavish and beautiful once again. Screaming out to gods so-called prophet youre not needed. Your God is not needed here all of this pain, death and destruction, it was caused by you. And we will be the ones to rebuild it not you Your profit, not your witnesses, us. And only us now close your gates to heaven and hell. Leave us to our own we've already turned our backs on you so you do the same. We don't want you and we don't need you. The sky closed and went dark leaving only the last few survives scattered across the wasteland that was once earth.

Not sure if these kind of posts are allowed here so LMK if not.
My parents are building a new house and I am trying to help them get the wifi set up. It'll be me, my parents and my 2 sisters. Everybody has multiple devices and my sister and dad work from home sometimes. Apparently we have 1GB internet speed. I'm the only one who games but I have a ethernet plug in the wall in my room so ill just be wired there. The house is around 6,000 square feet and so far I am looking at the eero 6 pro and the eero 6e pro. LMK if those are fine for what I have described or if I should look elsewhere.

Ok so my sister threw a party at our house, and i didn't want to meet her friends bc i got scared (idk why) but then later she called me downstairs and said "hey everyone left wanna come downstairs and watch a movie?" And i said "cant you come up?" Because me and my mom was watching a show and she said "ok" and started laughing while coming up, then suddenly my sis and a friend came and they laughed together and i got nervous and she started saying this is my friend blabla and i was like "uh hi" and my sister laughed at me and said "omg why are you so shy??" In a mocking way. So then they left and my mom told me that her trying to trick me wasnt right, and we should go downstairs and eat cake but she had to do smth first. My sister re-entered the house bc she left to say bye to her friends and came upstairs. I was in my room waiting for my mom and then my mom started saying like "what you did was wrong" bla bla and after my sister yelled "ok my name sorry for saying everyone left but they didnt" and it felt so half assed and it isnt even a big deal what she did but it feels like it. So then they started whispering (i hate how my mom whispers and thinks i cant hear her) then she said smth like "she is___ and certain things she struggles____" like ok ok ok ok ok i just got up and locked my door bc i got upset. Like 25 min later my mom came by my door and was like "lets go get cake" like she didnt talk abt me being..weird? I said no thank you alot of times cuz she kept asking and she got upset at me. I wanted cake for the sake of being with my mom and then she just starts saying shit like that and i know she will get upset at me for being upset abt it and im so angry now over liyerally nothing and im sad i said no and i wanna cry but i cant coz they'll hear me and i want to cut i think i might at this point. Its just NOT A BIG DEAL AND IM STILL GETTING UPSET I HATE THIS